Spanking 101

Spanking is the most common first step in the search for a variety in erotic life. The mild climate of SM in spank on the buttocks seems entirely innocent. Still, it should be remembered that this type of play should be agreed upon in advance and approved by everyone involved. Make sure all participants know what the ground rules are.

Thanks to spanking, partners stimulate the buttocks area and other parts of the body.

The thin red line between pain and pleasure is very individual and depends on many factors. As a result of spanking, the blood circulation near the spanked area of ​​the skin increases. Self-flagellation with birch twigs is often used as part of a ritual in a Finnish sauna ritual. On the other hand, be aware that strong blows can cause blood vessels to burst under the skin, leading to bruising. In extreme cases, the skin can even be damaged and cut, which requires proper medical attention.

How do the safe-word works?

Remember: What may be the fulfilment of sexual fantasies for one person and the highest form of pleasure for someone else can be a traumatic and frightening experience to another. So before you start playing with SM, you need to establish where these boundaries are for all the participants. Agreement on a "safety word" is a must so that fun remains fun. 

What is the safety word? For many people, BDSM game involves a certain amount of role-playing. Submission and dominance manifest in the realm of language. By becoming a submissive, you can beg for mercy, and this is still part of the game as it is the other party privilege to decide whether to listen to your plea or not. But what to do if you really want to stop playing? This is where the safety word comes to play. What's the best word for safety word? Something simple. It could be "pineapple", "ketchup", or "red" - anything you can remember and shout out in one breath. Most often it is food-related, or street lights colours. The safety word should act as a brake - instantly and unconditionally.

Safety word - when gagged

In some BDSM games, the person receiving the spanking is restrained and gagged, making it impossible to articulate a safety word. In such a situation, some other signal is needed. It has to be clearly visible and understandable to the partner who has taken control. It can be, for example, a gesture with a hand or head. Or you could grab and hold a bell, or an object that dropped would make a specific, loud sound. In such cases, it is worth practising and rehearsing beforehand.

Which parts of the body are best for spanking?

It is safest to aim at places with a layer of muscle and fat - buttocks are precisely such an area. Areas very susceptible to injury are kidneys and joints - knees and elbows. Never aim at the kidneys and joints. You might cause severe damage. The strength of the spanking should also be adjusted according to the endurance and preferences of the partner. Always remember about safety. It is worth starting with gentle strikes and slowly increasing the strength by carefully observing your partner's reaction.

Best spanking accessories

Bare hands are often used for erotic spanking as a first choice. The advantage is direct touch. However, the strength or type of sensation varies with the equipment used. Every reliable sex shop has a BDSM section where you can buy all kinds of belts, floggers, whips and riding crops. Each of these accessories works differently. Flogger strings will give a completely different sensation than a whip with a narrowed tip or a wide leather float. The intensity will also depend on the strength, momentum, and frequency of strokes. Everyone has a different threshold of pain. What may be too subtle and gentle for one person might be a reason for shouting out loud the safety word.

What part of spanking is the most pleasurable?

Bare hands are often used for erotic spanking as a first choice. The advantage is direct touch. However, the strength or type of sensation varies with the equipment used. Every reliable sex shop has a BDSM section where you can buy all kinds of belts, floggers, whips and riding crops. Each of these accessories works differently. Flogger strings will give a completely different sensation than a whip with a narrowed tip or a wide leather float. The intensity will also depend on the strength, momentum, and frequency of strokes. Everyone has a different threshold of pain. What may be too subtle and gentle for one person might be a reason for shouting out loud the safety word.

PRO TIP
Change the rhythm. 
Do not slap evenly with the same intensity and time intervals.
Differentiate the pace.

Best spanking clothes?

Refetish.com offers you clothes specially dedicated to erotic spanking. Tight latex and datex shorts, mini skirts, leather skirts with an open bottom - just to name a few. We recommend a body harness for those more experienced in S/M climates and various leather hand and leg cuff. It is also worth checking out the different models of whips and floggers.

 

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